What is emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is the ability to zoom out from the emotions we feel. Most of us get caught and overwhelmed by our emotion. When we feel sad we tend to fight the emotion as we do not like this feeling. The more we fight it the stronger the emotion gets.
Equally when we feel joy, we do not want the joy to end. Ideally we would like to be calm and at peace all of the time. However we have been conditioned to want to feel joy and pleasure at all times.
Anger is a more complex emotion. This is most of the time down to us not fully understanding our underlying emotion. Often anger is frustration of not being able to find joy when one is sad.
So how can we become more emotionally intelligent. This takes time and training. mindfulness is a great tool for this. It teaches us to accept any emotion as just that an emotion. It teaches us not to fight the emotion and let it be.
The way I like to look at it is; an emotion is a wave, it starts strong and eventually fades out. The time it takes to fade out depends on our ability to let the wave naturally progress and accept it.
The more we fight it, the stronger the wave gets. Emotions will continue to come and go, as this is our human condition.
We have no control over the events that happen in life, however we can learn to control our emotions and change the way we perceive life. This is one of the things we study at Mahatma and would love to help you discover.
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